Coaching, clarified.

Yes. The first call is free, up to 50 minutes, online (video or phone). We talk about what you are working on, what you want from coaching, how I work, and we find a rate that works for both of us. If we are a fit, you book your first session from there. If we are not, or if what you actually need is therapy. I tell you that, and offer referrals where I can.

Sliding scale spots are limited and may include a waitlist when full. Because coaching needs, frequency, and financial circumstances vary, rates are discussed during the consultation call rather than posted publicly. I’ve found this approach allows for a more nuanced conversation and prevents people from prematurely ruling out support that may ultimately feel accessible and aligned.

Yes. Coaching is 100% online. Every session is video or phone, and we work together no matter where you live. Coaching is not location-restricted the way therapy is.

Therapy is the one that is location-restricted: I am only licensed to provide psychotherapy to clients physically located in California. If you are outside California and seeking therapy specifically, please visit my therapy practice for referrals.

Fifty or eighty minutes, online. We start with what is alive for you that week. Depending on what shows up, we might use the EPIC communication model on a specific conversation, slow down and locate a part that is running the show, do somatic-only work, or for couples, run a Tantra-inspired connection exercise. I am reading the room. No two sessions are the same.

I do not work from a rigid syllabus. The shape of the work is determined by what you bring, not by what a curriculum says is supposed to happen in week three.

Coaching may fit if you want help clarifying goals, improving communication, building healthier relationship practices, expanding intimacy, making decisions, and following through. It is future-focused, present-focused work.

Therapy may fit better if you are dealing with significant trauma symptoms, severe anxiety or depression, active addiction in early recovery, suicidality, or anything that needs clinical assessment and treatment. We can talk this through on the consult call. I will not coach someone who actually needs therapy, that is not safe for either of us.

I have 23 years of clinical practice, two decades of lived experience inside CNM and kink communities, a published book on non-monogamy with frameworks I introduced (Open Deeply, Simon & Schuster), a 65-episode podcast co-hosted with Sunny Megatron, and certifications across EMDR, sex education, psychedelic harm reduction, and IFS-informed somatic work.

What that produces is depth. You are getting a senior practitioner who has actually been in these communities, not a generalist who has read about them. Many clients tell me they hired me specifically because I am one of the few coaches in this space whose body of work spans clinical training, lived community experience, and a published book.

If you’re in acute crisis or immediate danger, coaching isn’t the right level of support. You deserve care that can meet you fully in that moment. Please contact local emergency services or a crisis resource (in the U.S., you can call or text 988).

My work focuses on relationships, embodied consent, and nervous system awareness, and I’m not able to provide crisis support. If you’re unsure what kind of support you need, I’m happy to help you think that through.

I take privacy seriously and approach coaching conversations with care and discretion. However, coaching is not psychotherapy and is not governed by the same legal and clinical confidentiality standards as therapy. Coaching is not mental health treatment. If you are looking for the protections and structure of psychotherapy, therapy is likely the better fit. We can talk through the differences during the consultation call.

No. I cannot serve simultaneously as your coach and your therapist, that is a dual-role conflict and bad for you. If you are currently a therapy client of mine and want coaching support, we will need to make a choice about which relationship to continue, or refer the coaching to someone else.

Yes. All of the above. My practice is roughly balanced across men, women, and queer clients of any gender. I work with individuals, couples, and occasionally larger relational structures (triads, polycules). I am kink-affirmative and have lived experience inside these communities; nothing you bring will surprise me.

Group skills programs are forming. I am developing a cohort-based curriculum built on the toolkit you can read about on the Approach page. Groups are not yet open for enrollment. Join the interest list on the Resources page if you want to be notified when the first cohort opens.