Polyamory coaching for people in Chicago.
Online coaching with the author of Open Deeply, available to clients across Chicago and the surrounding region. Twenty years of lived experience inside CNM and kink communities, plus a named toolkit for the actual work.
Online · Sliding scale · Pay-as-you-go
The toolkit, applied here.
Polyamory coaching with me in Chicago draws on the tools I introduced in Open Deeply, the EPIC Communication Model, Double Triggers, Embodied Consent, and the broader practitioner toolkit on my Approach page. The work is specific: opening up without imploding the existing relationship; working with metamour dynamics; navigating polycule structure changes; creating conscious, compassionate relationships. Sessions are present- and future-focused. We do not process trauma in a coaching session; if your situation is therapy territory, I will tell you that on the consult call.
A few common reasons people in Chicago write to me.
- Couples opening a long-term partnership for the first time
- Polyamorous people navigating triad / polycule structure changes
- Partners working through jealousy, NRE, or activated-at-the-same-time dynamics
- People who have read Open Deeply and want to work with the author directly
- CNM-experienced people seeking a coach who actually knows the territory
A note on the local scene.
Chicago has a large, established CNM, kink, and queer community, though it tends to be a little less performative and trend-driven than some coastal scenes. The city has long-running polyamory meetup networks, queer community spaces, BDSM education groups, and a strong overlap between alternative relationship culture and LGBTQ+ communities, particularly around neighborhoods like Andersonville and Northalsted.There’s often a grounded, real-world quality to the Chicago scene. Many people are balancing careers, families, long-term partnerships, parenting, or Midwestern cultural expectations while also exploring more expansive relationship structures. The result is a community that is often thoughtful, community-oriented, and interested in building relationships that are both authentic and sustainable.
Local references and resources
- Chicago Polyamory (meetup)
- Galleria Domain 2 (Chicago's premier kink club)
- Boystown and Andersonville queer cluster
- Chicago kink-affirmative therapist and practitioner overlap
Coaching is online; Illinois residents can work with Kate as a coach. For psychotherapy in Illinois, look for an Illinois-licensed therapist.
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Quick answers.
01Do I need to be physically located somewhere specific to work with you as a coach?
No. Coaching is 100% online. Every session is video or phone. Whether you live in Chicago proper, in the surrounding metro area, or anywhere else, we can work together.
Therapy is the one that has location restrictions: Kate is licensed to provide psychotherapy only in California. Coaching has no licensure or geographic constraint.
02What's specific to working on polyamory issues in Chicago?
Most of what we work on is the universal stuff: the patterns, the communication, the attachment dynamics, the embodied-consent practice. That doesn't change by metro.
What can be specific to Chicago is context: the shape of the local CNM community, what local resources exist when you need them, and what local therapist referral makes sense if it turns out coaching isn't the right fit.
03How do you handle metamour or polycule dynamics in coaching?
I work with individuals, couples, and triads, and I'm open to supporting polycules as well. If we're working with multiple members, we'll collaboratively determine the best format — sometimes one-on-one, sometimes a few of you, and sometimes everyone together. For larger group decisions that affect the whole polycule, we'll gather everyone for a longer session. If it's more about refining communication or boundaries, smaller subsets can focus on those skills. And if there's a metamour conflict requiring deeper mediation, I can help or refer you to a poly-affirmative therapist if needed.
The first conversation is free.
Online consultation, up to 50 minutes. We talk about what you're working on, how I work, and find a rate that works for both of us.
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