Polyamory coaching for people in Los Angeles.
Online coaching with the author of Open Deeply, available to clients across Los Angeles and the surrounding region. Twenty years of lived experience inside CNM and kink communities, plus a named toolkit for the actual work.
Online · Sliding scale · Pay-as-you-go
The toolkit, applied here.
Polyamory coaching with me in Los Angeles draws on the tools I introduced in Open Deeply, the EPIC Communication Model, Double Triggers, Embodied Consent, and the broader practitioner toolkit on my Approach page. The work is specific: opening up without imploding the existing relationship; working with metamour dynamics; navigating polycule structure changes; creating conscious, compassionate relationships. Sessions are present- and future-focused. We do not process trauma in a coaching session; if your situation is therapy territory, I will tell you that on the consult call.
A few common reasons people in Los Angeles write to me.
- Couples opening a long-term partnership for the first time
- Polyamorous people navigating triad / polycule structure changes
- Partners working through jealousy, NRE, or activated-at-the-same-time dynamics
- People who have read Open Deeply and want to work with the author directly
- CNM-experienced people seeking a coach who actually knows the territory
A note on the local scene.
Los Angeles has multiple CNM/kink/queer scenes layered across geography. Echo Park / Silver Lake have a long-running queer + poly cluster. The adult-industry overlap means LA has more sex-positive professional infrastructure than most cities. There's a meaningful KAP and psychedelic-integration community here. The Hollywood / west-side scene differs from the eastside scene differs from the South Bay scene. Practitioners in LA often need to know which LA you're talking about.
Local references and resources
- The Threshold Society (long-running BDSM education and dungeon)
- Echo Park and Silver Lake queer-and-poly cluster
- LA's KAP and psychedelic-integration community
- Adult-industry sex-positive practitioner overlap
- Kate's own therapy practice (Los Angeles)
If you live in California and want psychotherapy specifically, Kate's therapy practice is in CA and she's licensed here. Coaching is a separate offering. Most LA-based clients still choose coaching over therapy when their work fits the coaching frame.
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Quick answers.
01Do I need to be physically located somewhere specific to work with you as a coach?
No. Coaching is 100% online. Every session is video or phone. Whether you live in Los Angeles proper, in the surrounding metro area, or anywhere else, we can work together.
Therapy is the one that has location restrictions: Kate is licensed to provide psychotherapy only in California. Coaching has no licensure or geographic constraint.
02What's specific to working on polyamory issues in Los Angeles?
Most of what we work on is the universal stuff: the patterns, the communication, the attachment dynamics, the embodied-consent practice. That doesn't change by metro.
What can be specific to Los Angeles is context: the shape of the local CNM community, what local resources exist when you need them, and what local therapist referral makes sense if it turns out coaching isn't the right fit.
03How do you handle metamour or polycule dynamics in coaching?
I work with individuals, couples, and triads, and I'm open to supporting polycules as well. If we're working with multiple members, we'll collaboratively determine the best format — sometimes one-on-one, sometimes a few of you, and sometimes everyone together. For larger group decisions that affect the whole polycule, we'll gather everyone for a longer session. If it's more about refining communication or boundaries, smaller subsets can focus on those skills. And if there's a metamour conflict requiring deeper mediation, I can help or refer you to a poly-affirmative therapist if needed.
The first conversation is free.
Online consultation, up to 50 minutes. We talk about what you're working on, how I work, and find a rate that works for both of us.
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