Polyamory coaching for people in NYC.
Online coaching with the author of Open Deeply, available to clients across NYC and the surrounding region. Twenty years of lived experience inside CNM and kink communities, plus a named toolkit for the actual work.
Online · Sliding scale · Pay-as-you-go
The toolkit, applied here.
Polyamory coaching with me in NYC draws on the tools I introduced in Open Deeply, the EPIC Communication Model, Double Triggers, Embodied Consent, and the broader practitioner toolkit on my Approach page. The work is specific: opening up without imploding the existing relationship; working with metamour dynamics; navigating polycule structure changes; creating conscious, compassionate relationships. Sessions are present- and future-focused. We do not process trauma in a coaching session; if your situation is therapy territory, I will tell you that on the consult call.
A few common reasons people in NYC write to me.
- Couples opening a long-term partnership for the first time
- Polyamorous people navigating triad / polycule structure changes
- Partners working through jealousy, NRE, or activated-at-the-same-time dynamics
- People who have read Open Deeply and want to work with the author directly
- CNM-experienced people seeking a coach who actually knows the territory
A note on the local scene.
New York City has a massive, densely-layered CNM/kink/queer ecosystem that rewards specificity. Brooklyn, Bushwick especially, has been the visible polyamorous and queer-kink center for the last decade. The Manhattan scene differs sharply: more professional, more discreet, more financial-services-adjacent CNM. The Hudson Valley has its own distinct queer-poly cluster with a contemplative practitioner overlap. NYC's pace asks specific questions about how relational work survives the workweek.
Local references and resources
- Open Love NY (NYC poly community, founded 2009)
- NY/NJ Polyamory Meetup
- Omega Institute (Hudson Valley contemplative center)
- Garrison Institute (Hudson Valley contemplative training)
- Bushwick queer-and-poly nightlife
- Manhattan kink-affirmative therapist and practitioner community
Coaching is online; New York residents can work with Kate as a coach. For psychotherapy in New York, look for a New York-licensed therapist or psychologist. Kate's therapy practice is California-only.
- FREQUENTLY ASKED
Quick answers.
01Do I need to be physically located somewhere specific to work with you as a coach?
No. Coaching is 100% online. Every session is video or phone. Whether you live in NYC proper, in the surrounding metro area, or anywhere else, we can work together.
Therapy is the one that has location restrictions: Kate is licensed to provide psychotherapy only in California. Coaching has no licensure or geographic constraint.
02What's specific to working on polyamory issues in NYC?
Most of what we work on is the universal stuff: the patterns, the communication, the attachment dynamics, the embodied-consent practice. That doesn't change by metro.
What can be specific to NYC is context: the shape of the local CNM community, what local resources exist when you need them, and what local therapist referral makes sense if it turns out coaching isn't the right fit.
03How do you handle metamour or polycule dynamics in coaching?
I work with individuals, couples, and triads, and I'm open to supporting polycules as well. If we're working with multiple members, we'll collaboratively determine the best format — sometimes one-on-one, sometimes a few of you, and sometimes everyone together. For larger group decisions that affect the whole polycule, we'll gather everyone for a longer session. If it's more about refining communication or boundaries, smaller subsets can focus on those skills. And if there's a metamour conflict requiring deeper mediation, I can help or refer you to a poly-affirmative therapist if needed.
The first conversation is free.
Online consultation, up to 50 minutes. We talk about what you're working on, how I work, and find a rate that works for both of us.
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